Toddler separation anxiety is a normal stage of tot development, it almost happens to any child of you. The condition develops once your toddler face a hard time because of individuation and separation. Whenever you go to work, to the bathroom or they go for bed time are some of time when toddler separation anxiety start to come.
As a parent, you should understand that separation anxiety is a part of growing phase. It comes from the adaptation period when they start to urge for independency but at the same time they need for security for being close with you. As this is normal condition, so you can’t force to blotting out that conflict go away, but you can help your tots to deal with the problem.
Once parents face this toddler separation anxiety, don’t get annoyed on it. Try to form a loving and warm relationship with your tot while clinging or whining, bear with the tantrums and tears, in fact they act like that because they love you. Try to talks with your child nicely and tell them that you will back soon whenever you leave your tot.
Tips to help ease toddler separation anxiety
1. Avoiding sounding doubtful and be confident when you leave. If you are showing your doubt in front of anxious child, it won’t help. Try to firm and consistent about your departures as possible as you can.
2. Say goodbye quickly. When you leaving your child, don’t linger or dawdle as it will make they feel unsettled. Tell them when you come back and you promise to comeback, never lied to your child.
3. Use a “transitional object” to connect them with you once you leave them. You can use a picture of mommy or daddy or “lovie” or”blankie” that your tot is attached to. These ideas help your tot sense of security and feel comfort when you are not beside them.
4. When your child has overcome they toddler separation anxiety for the first time, give them a reward and praise. Encourage him/her to be more autonomous in the next time.